Your Questions About Stay At Home Mom Quotes

stay home mom…deserve a salary???

Grandma’s Letter:

DEAR ABBY: I need your help with something. My 16-year-old grandson seems to think that all his mother does is stay at home. He conveniently “forgets” that she is a housekeeper, gardener, cook, teacher, nurse, driver and mediator. Could you please print a breakdown of what a stay-at-home wife should be paid? I would love to have a list so I can pass the “bill” on to him. — VIVIAN IN COLONIAL BEACH, VA.

DEAR VIVIAN: According to the

Census Bureau figures for 2004 — which are the most recent — there are 36.7 million mothers of minor children in the United States. About one-third of them, 10.8 million, are stay-at-home moms.
According to an article penned by Al Neuharth, the founder of USA Today, in its May 11, 2006, edition, “Salary.com compensation experts estimate that stay-at-home moms work an average of 91.6 hours a week.” That’s more than double the number of hours the average office worker puts in. He went on to say, “That should be worth $134,121 annually.”
He quoted the compensation analysts as figuring the lowest-paying parts of a mother’s job are “housekeeper, laundry machine operator and janitor. Higher-paying categories include computer operator, facilities manager, psychologist and CEO.” With a 91.6-hour work week, 52 weeks a year, it works out to be $28.16 an hour.
It should go without saying that a mother’s love is priceless, so tell that grandson of yours that $28.16 an hour is a real bargain.

NEW STAY-AT-HOME-MOMS: Are you finding that you now have time to manage your household finances / accounts?

For example, since I no longer work full-time, I now handle all the bill-paying and have had time to set up our life insurance / will / trust (something we didn’t need before having a baby), check quotes to improve our insurance on other items, redo our investments and move around checking / savings accounts as well as get credit-cards where we get a better interest rate or cash-back reward program.

I never would have had time to do all of this at work (especially since all calls have to be made during business hours) and I am wondering if any other new mom‘s have also become the new CEO / CFO’s of the household now that they are home during the day??

Quotes and Songs about changeing your life?

I’ve decided to switch gears from a work all the time mom, to a stay at home mom. I’m exciting but a little worried too. (you know finances and everything).

Does anyone have good quotes or songs about changeing life for the better? Or maybe kids coming first? Thanks!
I’m just looking for a way to remind myself this is a good thing.

We are renting to own a home and Landlord has told us that his homeowners insurance has gone up to $625.00?

monthly. Our monthly payment with this increase is $2150.00 per month. I am a Stay at home Mom and we can not afford this!! He told us to try to get our own coverage when we moved in 2 months ago ( we tried, but unless you are the homeowner- you cant change the policy) and he will not fax over documentation to Allstate. They quoted us 1200.00 a year!!

What can we do?? We did not sign a lease for $2150! Our lease shows $1500.00 a month. We love our home- it is perfect for us. But we cant pay for this home!!! Please give me some advice.

WE CAN NOT AFFORD TO MOVE AND LANDLORD IS NOT RESPONDING TO OUR CALLS/EMAILS/LETTERS!!
My husband is already working 16 hours a day 6 days a week. We only have one car and I have to be home with our baby…
We are under a lease. 12 months. It is stated in it that we are to pay $1550.00 a month with a $50.00 credit if we pay on time.

Live at home or move out?

I am 20 years old and I currently live with my mom and dad. I live in a small town and commute to Lansing community college about 30mins away. This is my second year there. I moved out for a semester last year(freshman yr), but got homesick and didn’t get along with my pot head roommates and moved home. I’ve been home since. Lansing Community College is 2mins away from Michigan State University so theres so much to do around there. I still go up there to party and stuff, but its not the same. My friends keep asking me to move into an apartment with them when fall 2011 semester starts, but im afraid im going to get homesick again and get the feeling I don’t want to grow up. I would enjoy living with then but I’m afraid if I stay home again im gonna regret not experiencing college the right way. The good thing living at home is that my parents don’t care what time i leave or come home at night and theres no rent, all free! Save a lot of money but majority of the time there is nothing to do in this small town Please help with any advice!

this quote helps a lot:
You have four years to be irresponsible here. Relax. Work is for people with jobs. You’ll never remember class time, but you’ll remember time you wasted hanging out with your friends. So, stay out late. Go out on a Tuesday with your friends when you have a paper due Wednesday. Spend money you don’t have. Drink ’til sunrise. The work never ends, but college does…
1 second ago – 4 days left to answer.

WHY IS HE SOOOO mad at me???

okay, I’m a Stay at home mom. I take care of all the bills, house work & take care of my husband & my 3 yr old child. well, we have been talking for awhile about getting new car insurance so today I decided that we needed to look for some & I found a better rate somewhere else (let me say the car insurance is in my name not in both of our names) so I called an agent, got a better quote & signed up for it. I took care of everything. My husband went off the wall & told me that I should have consulted him! Hello, the insurance wasn’t in his name, I take care of all the bills, & my husband was working so it wasn’t like I could call him up & ask him to sign anything (because I was the one that had to sign everything since it was in my name). He got so mad at me & I don’t understand why? Am I wrong? He said I wasn’t being considerate! I thought I was. I was saving him trouble of coming home & trying to worry about it. Please help.

How do you feel about this insane Twi-mom quote?

“DO YOU THINK YOU ARE THE ONLY ONE whose life turned upside down when you read Twilight? Is your house a disaster with piles of piles of laundry in every corner and stacks of dirty dishes at record breaking heights? Have you imagined your husband is a vampire (or werewolf) and suddenly have the libido of newlywed again? Do you convince yourself that “cold cereal” makes a perfectly wholesome dinner? Is the pizza delivery boy now on your Christmas card list? Are your children free to run a muck as long as no one comes too you bleeding . . .(too badly)? Oh, you feel guilty, but that’s not enough! You still can’t tear yourself away from the book and damned be the consequences! The good new is- YOU ARE NOT ALONE! Fans of the Twilight Series in OUR STAGE of life (whether you’re a mom or not) now have a place where we can gather unashamed of our irrational obsession with vampires and werewolves. We have a place where “our kind” can relate without having to wade through all the teenage Internet code mumbo jumbo like “OMG!!! IMHO Edward is sooo Hawt!!!” (usually a dead giveaway that you should be doing your social studies homework for 3rd period instead of playing on the computer.) FYI, it was a group of 14/15 year olds that “changed” me. However, OUR world of balancing family, work, home, marriage AND…our Twilight obsession is unique, fun, and oh, so very humorous. The personal stories and experiences I’ve heard and read from women all over the world are a blast. YOU LADIES ROCK!!! …and “Twilight Moms” is dedicated to YOU!!! Enjoy this little corner of the Internet that is just for us.”

That is just creepy. Because a] all mums do not stay home and look after their kids which they make it out to be and b] social workers should come and take the kids away after this. It’s not funny.

http://www.twilightmoms.com/?page_id=797

LOL LYNN. I love you.

Is our marriage worth saving?

First, a little background history: My wife and I started young. We were engaged young, married young, and started our family young. And despite the odds and the nasty comments from relatives, we managed to not “end up in a trailer home” (in quotes because this was one of the aforementioned comments from a relative. We did good for ourselves. We bought our first home, started our own business and then because of the business, sold our first home and moved into a bigger one that had space for our business.

Well, the economy took a crap and so did our business. Then we were stuck in a too-big home with a too-big mortgage that the business was no longer paying half of. So I got a weekend job. It was hard at first, but we managed. Then I began hating my full-time job. I’m miserable there. So I applied to a college and began attending classes every weeknight in the evenings so that I can get into a career I love. It’s been about three years since that decision. Well, my wife is miserable. She is a stay-at-home mom who is also attending school full-time, but everything of hers is online so it doesn’t interfere with her being home with the kids. In the beginning, she was in full support of my going back to school but now she makes comments sometimes like when I have to study and she wants to plan a family thing…”of course you have to study, etc.” She says things like she’s tired of being the one waiting at home for the other. She’s tired of when she’s had a terrible day with the kids that she doesn’t have a partner who comes home in the evening so she can get out and re-coup. She hates that the boys are being jipped out of a family dinner each night. She also says that me being gone all the time is affecting how she mothers, her patience is wearing thinner and she’s constantly stressed out because there’s no start and end to her “workday.” Then we fight because I ask her how she thinks I feel…I’m working full-time, going to school and then working another 12 hours over the weekend. I tell her to wait it out, that our situation will get better but she says by then she’s afraid she’ll have too much resentment. We’re trying to sell our house. I’ll be graduating in a year. She is almost finished with school. But I can’t get her to see that it will all be coming to an end soon. She always uses the line “what if I’m dead by then?” (she started using this line after her friend was killed in a car accident about 9 months ago.) She says when the house sells, we should go our separate ways, but I can’t see how that could be better than our current situation. What can I do? Are we past saving? When it’s good, it’s reallllly good but then she gets into moods where she just resents everything I do. I don’t know what to do, I don’t want to lose her but I can’t change our situation.
Jules: I love her and my boys more than anything in the entire world. They’re the entire reason I started going back to school, I thought that a few tough years later and we would be better than we were before.
just me: Sounds like you’ve been screwed over yourself. That woman you describe is not my wife though. I’d have a hard time giving her any money if she divorced me, because that’s not her personality. She doesn’t take hand me downs. And the money is not “my money.” I may get the paycheck, but the money is “our money.” Hopefully you can recover from whatever you’ve been through.
*hand-me-downs = hand-outs

Why is there always this assumption that working moms do so out of necessity?

I always hear this, especially stay-at-home moms saying how fortunate they are they can afford to stay home. Are there so few women who have careers because they gain satisfaction from it, because they have a passion for something besides homemaking? We never assume that a man only works “for necessity” rather men are defined by their careers. We never ask how men can manage to have children and a career. There’s also this assumption that if a woman has something she is as passionate or more passionate about than her kids she’s a bad mom whereas no one thinks that about a dad.

Just some quotes from answers I’ve seen on here recently:

“If a couple is married and they can afford to have only one income the choice is simple.”

“I’m a stay-at-home mom so i don’t have to hire a stranger to come in and mother my own children.”

“If you don’t have time to raise your kids you shouldn’t have had them.”

“…and if I could afford a nanny for all my kids, I could afford to stay home.”
@hor – You are one of the ones who just doesn’t get it. I would do what I do even if I didn’t get paid anything, payment is just a bonus for me. I would spend all my salary on a nanny because I wouldn’t be happy at all being at home 24/7. A depressed mom isn’t a good mom. The point I’m making is if a man is like that no one thinks he is neglecting his family but with women they think she’s a bad mom for not having her kids as the only important thing in her life. You’ll be a much better parent if your life is well rounded.
Plus it’s not an either/or thing. You can be passionate about your career AND your kids. You can enjoy your work life all day and come home and still love your kids just as much as a SAHM.