Your Questions About Stay At Home Mom Depression

Stay at home mom who can’t stop thinking/feeling this way.?

I’m a young stay at home mom who has been married for 5 years. I have 5 small children who are my life (I had my first child when I was 17, and getting pregnant with that child literally saved me from myself).

For the past six months or so I’ve been having a lot of thoughts that have to do with me leaving my family. I’m pretty sure that I would never leave them, I would never want to devastate them and cause such chaos in their lives. What bothers me the most is not knowing why I think these things.

Some days I’m perfectly fine with being a stay at home mom, but other days it seems as if I get into a crazy sort of mood and it takes everything I have to make myself stay at home. I get restless and fidgety and can’t sit still. It’s like my mind is going a hundred miles a minute and all I can think about is leaving and doing something outrageous and out of character. I’m normally a pretty laid back person who tends to be very shy and modest. So when I say that I think about doing something outrageous and out of charcter – my thoughts usually involve getting wasted on alcohol and having sex with complete strangers, or finding someone who will disappear with me for a weekend getaway and just go wherever the wind blows us. I’m pretty sure that these aren’t normal thoughts for a married stay at home mom.

Typically, these moods don’t last for very long. Two or three hours at the most, occassionally it may last for an entire day. But it happens a lot, around 2 or 3 times a week. I’m worried that one day I might not be able to keep myself at home and I will end up doing something that I will most likely regret.

Anyhow, I’m just wondering if there is anyone else who feels this way as well, and if so, how do you deal with it?

Do you know of any good websites that could possibly help?

Here’s a few other details about me – I have had issues with depression most of my life, but currently I do not take any medication. I have moments where I am severely depressed, and then I’ll be fine for a few days, and then I’ll be just a little depressed. And somewhere amidst the good days and bad days, I’ll get into one of my crazy “wanting to leave and do something outrageous” moods. My poor husband (bless his heart), says that I have terrible mood swings. One minute I’m fine and then the next I’m up in his face yelling at him for no reason at all.

I’ve done some research on Bipolar disorders but I don’t think I would fall into that category since my “wanting to do something outrageous moods” only last for a couple of hours.

Any help or advice is appreciated. And I know that I shouldn’t be thinking these things…so please don’t leave any ignorant comments.

Stay-at-home-mom, depressed and want to leave family please help me and answer question.?

I am a stay-at-home-mom with two children ages 5&6 and I have never had one day away from them. With my 6 yr. old I was diagnosed with postpartum depression and because I was breastfeeding I didn’t want any medicine nor did I attend the counseling that I was suppose to. I now think I have just full blown depression. Everyday I am stressed and depressed and I’m black woman. Years ago when I told my family that I was diagnosed with depression, they said, “ain’t nothing wrong with you, that’s for white people” and they laughed. My husband too think that there’s nothing wrong with me because I do such a great job with my children meaning, I feed them, make sure they are not misstreated, bathe them, I’m a room parent at the school, put them first……….all of the basic stuff. We even have arguments about me NOT being depressed. He just don’t believe that “I” can be depressed. He says that if I’m depressed then hell, he is too. When he’s not around I cry, have thoughts of leaving them and even thoughts of me being dead but I never have thoughts of hurting my children instead I just want to leave them and never come back.

Everyday is a struggle for me. Because I’m black and our ancestors took on slavery and civil rights, I’m too suppose to be a strong black women. I’m told to suck it up, that my children didn’t ask to be here and I know all of that. Everyday I try to convince myself that I’m not depressed and that I’m just having a bad day. Maybe I’m just stressed from never having a day away from my children but everyday is a bad day. When my husband do take the children out to allow me to be by myself, I’m still not happy. I’m always sad and because my husband can get a laugh or too out of me or because I have just one okay day out of a week, I convince myself that nothing is wrong, maybe my husband is right. As I write this I know I’m not okay and that I need help. I don’t have family or friends in this state nor do I go to church so the only person I can think to help me is my doctor. Everytime I get enough courage to tell my doctor, again tell myself everything is okay.

I know my children are suffering emontionally and maybe mentally because I see it. Besides being at the school, when I get home, I don’t like to spend time with them, don’t like them near me or in my face and don’t like to talk much. I lay in the bed for hours even when I’m not sleepy and won’t even get up to pee. I hide in my closet and cry…I don’t want to keep living like this and need help before I just leave my family oneday. What can I do when I don’t have any support and no money to hire someone to listen to my problems.
I talk about this with my husband all the time just to get broken down by him. We just talked about last week and today around 4pm. He say that if I’m depressed then he too is depressed because he is the one who had a bad childhood. He says that nothing is wrong with me if I’m not thinking about killing my children.

Stay at home Mom thinking about joining the military part-time.?

My husband lost his job and we are having a terrible time making ends meet. He has become depressed due to the fact that he has not become employed as of yet. I am a stay at home Mom. I feel a need to try to help out and was thinking about part-time military. I have one daughter, she is 3 years old, she is my entire world, and I do not want to be away from her any more than is absolutely needed. I’m a bit apprehensive about joining the Army or Marines. I have heard that these are the forces that are first to deploy. I have 3 years of college under my belt, so I was wondering how any of the armed forces could help me in finishing my degree and possible paying back loans. I would love to be a part of the military. It would make me feel like I am contributing to my situation and at the same time securing a better future for my daughter. I have approached my husband to possibly get him to enlist since he actually has a degree, and would be going for his masters, but he’s afraid that with his current depression, he would not be accepted. Which puts me in a spot of having to take some sort of action myself. I would be interested to hear from anyone with any knowledge of Mom‘s serving part-time in the military…and how it works or does not work out for them. Or any sort of military info. that would be helpful. Thank you so much!

Stay at home mom wants that wants to work for Department of corrections but may have some bad background?

I am currently a stay at home mom. MY husband and I are moving to Utah in June. I am looking into career fields in Corrections. I am a very tall woman and fairly strong ( 6 foot 3 and about 170 pounds) and I have always wanted to do something in the police field.

The problem is that when I had my second child I developed postpartum depression and it was ugly. My husband and I had some domestic issues that were investigated (it wasn’t physical or anything just verbal) with child services and was later toss out in court because there was no proof of our children being in any danger whats so ever
(the social worker was trying to make my life a living hell because I stood up to her!)

Anyways, would it be on file if I had to go to court? it was in 2006 and I pleaded not guilty. Would it be searched if I had to go to a doctor to receive medication for postpartum depression? I don’t have it now of course but I really don’t want this to hinder anything with me possibly fiding a career in this field.

Also I am trying to find as much information as possible about the academy in the salt lake city/ Ogden Area. Any advice would be wonderful!

Stay at home mom depressed and lonely don’t know what to do?

I have 2 children. One 6 and one 13 months. I’m almost 7 months pregnant and stay at home everyday. I don’t have any friends anymore my stepsister/ best friend quit talking to me b/c she doesn’t like my boyfriend (father of my 3 children) I’m low income and live in a rural area and can’t afford to go out and do much. I would love to get a job, but I can’t afford daycare and rent on minimum wage (that’s all the jobs pay in my area). I used to spend time with my mom but she hasn’t been around much lately b/c my stepdad has aggressive cancer and gets daily treatment and hour away. I just really feel alone lately and don’t know what to do. I have nothing to look forward to. My boyfriend works a lot so I don’t even see him that often. I was being treated for postpartum depression when I got pregnant but had to quit taking med due to pregnancy. And I no longer go to counseling b/c I felt like I wasn’t doing much talking- my counselor mostly chit chatted about her grandkids. I wake up everyday not wanting to get out of bed b/c I know all there is to do is clean. I plan to start school in the fall, but that’s still 3 months away. Has anyone else ever felt like this? What can I do to make things better? .

I’m 23, and a stay at home mom and I’m about to break…PLEASE HELP?

I’m 23, and I’m a stay at home mom of a two year old-almost 3, and a 10 month old. I’m also 32 weeks pregnant with my third and last. I am having major problems with my life and I don’t know what to do. Financial (never having enough money to make it with my husbands income, yet no one will hire me because I’m pregnant) my husband is in the military and his schedule sucks and he works nights so I have the kids alone during the day when he sleeps and at night when he’s gone and I feel like a single mom, I feel like I can’t keep up and succeed at being a mom. I love me kids more than life itself but I just can’t handle the stress of it all. I never sit down, never get any down time and there’s always something that needs to get done. I can’t get my son to go to sleep on his own so it takes me like 2 hours to get him to bed and by the time he’s asleep, my daughter is up from her nap so it’s not like I can rest when they rest. I’ve tried everything, done what the books say, nothing works. I’m so tired of being pregnant it’s not even funny. I hurt all the time, and feel like I got hit by a truck. The doctors say that I’m healthy just my body is worn out from being pregnant so much in a short time. I was on an anti-depressant (Effexor) but can’t take it because I”m pregnant and I need something now to help me but don’t want to take anything because I don’t want to hurt the baby-so I’m trying to wait 8 more weeks until I have the baby to get on a mood stabilixer or anti-depressant or something, but 8 weeks seems like an eternity to me. It’s dragging by so slowly and I can’t take it anymore. I’m never happy, and I want to enjoy my kids and being a mother. It shouldn’t be this way. I’m seeing a therapist and she says taht I have depression and symptoms of PTSD (post trauatic stress disorder) from how I grew up but all she talks about during our sessions is stupid shallow topics that don’t help me. The best advice she’s given me so far is to count to 10 when something happens before I react-which I learned in middle school. I feel like the therapy isn’t working, and no one understands my desperation with my life. I don’t really have anyone to depend on or tell things to. My husband just makes excuses and I feel like he’s never on my side. When somethign happens and I”m getting so mad he just clams up inside and becomes mute which just makes things worse because it seems like he doesn’t care and I don’t want to talk to a wall. I want to talk to my husband. I jsut feel lke I wasn’t cut out for this stay at home mom life of constant running around just to accomplish nothing (I am constantly cleaning, or doing things and at the end of the day I have nothing to show for it other than just more dishes to do) I want to be happy and be a good mom and somehow feel fullfilled and content with my life, not always striving to fill this whole inside that will never go away. Half of me just wants to run far far away into a deep dark cave and die and not feel this anymore but the other half of me loves my kids so much and I would never leave them so I’m always torn and tortured. I feel like a prisoner in my own life. Does anyone know what I feel? Any advice would help. I could say A LOT more about my situation but it’s already pretty long lol. Any advice or input would be great. Thanks so much
thanks for the advice people. I never really had a family growing up so all I wanted was to start one of my own, I jsut didn’t know that it was going to be this hard and now it’s not like I can do anything about it. I wouldn’t trade the kids for the world but, idunno….also the advice I got was to get an online job, well my husband took our lap top (only computer) to Iraq with him last year and it broke when he was there. I’m at the library doing this now and we can’t even afford all our bills, diapers, PLUS food, much less buy a computer. My husband is home with the kids now and you bet I”m gonna pay for it for leaving to come here and type this…the house is going to be trashed and all my hours of work earlier today will be for nothing……
I do appreciate all who leave advice though, seriously )
It’s nice to know that people out there do care, even if you don’t know them )

My kids are out of hand I’m a stay home mom,dad’s a truck driver. there 7 and 8.they don’t listen at all

My husband and I have been togather almost 15 years. He started drivin’ a truck 4 years ago.At first I had all control,but as time has gone by my boy 8 has started just failing in school,conflicting pain on himself,he dosn’t listen to anything I say anymore,I’m always wrong.My girl she is the sassiest talking child I’ve ever encountered,she speaks to me as if I’m her maid,or pet,certainly not a mother.Yes I know my husband being away has alot to do with the whole thing but,he dose come home every weekend to find me at my ends and pulling my hair out.Now I do disapline them accordingly,and my son is seeing a doctor for his pain thing and depression.I just don’t know what to do any more,I never have any time with my husband when he’s home.I’v become nothing more than a live in nanny and it’s killing me.Any sugestions,please help!

I’m a stay at home mom and need a lawyer for my husband who wants to take my kids from me.?

I’ve been a stay-at-home-mom for almost seven years now. My husband and I both agreed to this as being the best thing for our family. Now, however, he is suffering from depression, and needs to take an anger management course but refuses to admit he has an anger problem; he blames his outbursts on me. I don’t have any money or family nearby and feel trapped and I’ve tried to get him to agree to a separation plan but he refuses. Now he’s threatening to take my children from me and I need help. Are there any organizations out there that help women like me who have little to no income and will supply a lawyer?